When someone is treating me badly I point my finger at them, and sternly, authoritatively, in a normal tone of voice, say the words,” Stop It”.
I don’t care what their reasoning is, I don’t care what my history is with them, I especially don’t give a fat rat’s ass what is motivating them, or what ever psychological problem is affecting them.
Just don’t care at all.
All I know is that when I say “Stop It”, they better stop.
I don’t explain why I say it; people who are treating me badly already know why I said it in the first place.
Sometimes people sputter out some nonsense about the reason why, or that I took it wrong or it’s about some kind of deficient on my part, like there is something wrong with me.
All I know is that you better be some kind of Saint, a holy person, perfect in everyway before you start critiquing, criticizing, picking at me, or trying to take a piece of me.
As you can probably tell I had to tell someone to “Stop It” this morning.
And they stopped.