Never would I change a single thing about my life. Writing about my past doesn’t really bother me. I mean it’s over, you know? Nothing can be changed, so for me it’s a safe subject. Maybe a little uncomfortable at times, it can still bring back those emotions, the ones that happened at the time. But even that is safe because those feelings are something that is not part of my present.
It’s simple to me. I made choices. Some were good and some were not so good. To continually whine about what happened years ago, I just don’t understand why people do that. At a certain point I made the choices, no one else but me. For me to try and make anyone but me responsible for the choices I made, as an adult, is just plain stupid.
I’ve listened to people in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s; blame their parents or someone else for their own life not turning out. Bullshit, choices are made; you make them yourself as an adult. I know I did. Then they get mad at me for pointing it out. The way I figure it is make your choices and then accept the consequences like an adult. Quit trying to blame it on a past that is years dead.
I hope my friend cools off and calls back. I got just a little tired hearing about how it’s all someone else’s fault. Bullshit.
Oh my, did I just do a rant? LOL Does this qualify as a rant? Is it? Me? I don’t do rants; tell me I didn’t just do a rant.
yes. you have ranted!!!!!!!!
Posted by: Beth | May 24, 2004 at 09:43 PM
Is it better to blame your parents for your life being so f'ed up or for the parents to blame their children for the parents life being so f'ed up?
Something to ponder ... hmmmm
Posted by: Machelle | May 25, 2004 at 11:45 AM
Machelle, Can an innocent child be the cause for their parents life’s being f'ed up? No, never, never, never, but I have seen adult child f'ed up their parents life.
As adults we have choices. Adult children, parents, whatever, and it just seems to me that an adult chooses whether or not to continue with abuse or not. It is their choice. To continue to blame is not adult behavior. I'm not saying forget it, I don't think a person can, but I think an adult has to get on with their life and that is a choice. A choice on what kind of life you are choose to have. Don't you think?
I wish I were a better writer. Did I write this good enough to understand? I’m sorry if I didn’t, I’ll think of a better way to write what I mean.
Posted by: BeeBee | May 25, 2004 at 02:32 PM
But it is sad when a parent blames their children (weather young or adult children) for their problems in life.
That is what I was trying to get across.
I know parents who still blame their children (who are now quite into adulthood themself) for every problem that has ever happened to them, recent or long ago.
The only person responsible for your problems is yourself, knowbody should blame anybody else.
Posted by: Machelle | June 02, 2004 at 09:27 AM